American Singer/Songwriter and Guitarist John Mayer won a 2008 Grammy for “Best Male Pop Vocal Performance” for his rendition of “Say” (2007), which originally appeared on the “Bucket List” film soundtrack. I find the song wonderful and wise.
What’s worse than feeling invisible, ignored or unappreciated?
Being treated like a doormat. You do your best, as a stepmom. You give up time and money to be available for your stepkids. You listen patiently to your husband’s complaints about his ex. You grit your teeth, while said ex makes unreasonable demands on both you and your family. Continue reading “Setting Boundaries: Inside the January 2018 Issue”
Exclusive! What Moms Want Stepmoms to Know: 8 Ways to Make Stepfamily Life Easier on Everyone by Blythe Ward, MEd
In my years as a therapist working with stepfamilies, many of my female clients expressed anger and frustration over feeling as if their stepkids’ mothers were making life very difficult for them. But not only was I a therapist. I was also a biological mother to two young boys. After my marriage to their father finally collapsed, my ex-husband remarried a woman who did not have any children of her own. Continue reading “Moms and Stepmoms: Inside the July 2017 Issue”
The January 2017 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!
→ Why Stepcouples Must Present a United Front
→ 4 Rules for Ditching Anger and Negativity
→ Protecting Your Assets During Your Stepkids’ Teen Years
→ Teaching Your Stepkids to Respect Personal Boundaries
→ 6 Ways to Combat Loneliness in Stepfamily Land
→ 10 Tips to Make 2017 a Banner Year
→ And much more! Continue reading “Inside the January 2017 Issue”
So, here you find yourself: You—a bright and articulate woman—have suddenly realized that whatever it is you’ve been doing to make this stepmom gig work hasn’t worked at all. In response, you examined your loving heart and reassessed your intentions to be sure they were pure.
Dealing with a high-conflict ex can be one of the hardest things a stepcouple faces. It can be difficult to know what to do or where to get the right support. The tension and conflict it stirs up can cause us to act against our natural instincts when it comes to arriving at trusting, open, empathetic responses and managing difficulty.
Stepmom resentment. As stepmoms, we sometimes sacrifice time with friends, extended family and even ourselves to cater to our partners and/or stepkids. We do this in part (and often subconsciously) in the hope that we’ll be viewed as the ideal stepmom—the one who’s there for everyone. Yet, when we’re finally exhausted and recognize we’re in need of help, little to none can be found.
If there’s a relationship more fraught with emotion than that of the stepmother and the ex-wife, I have yet to hear about it—and I’ve made a 20-year career of counseling people about their relationships.
The articles in this month’s issue are designed to help you go the distance in your role as a stepmom. Are you feeling burned out or unappreciated? Brenda Snyder’s article on disengaging will show you how to step back, regroup and keep going.
Is the ex a source of conflict in your home? We’ll teach you how to break the hold she has over your household—for good! Maybe life’s pretty calm right now and you simply want a few pointers on strengthening your stepfamily muscles. You’ll find that here, too.
Going the distance is infinitely easier with friends around who support and understand you. Here? You’re surrounded by them!