Inside the July 2018 Issue

StepMom July 2018The July 2018 issue is HERE!

This month we’re talking about:
→ Codependency
→ Interfering In-laws
→ Prenup Agreements
→ Feeling Like an Outsider
→ Being Childless by Choice
→ Advice for Stepmoms Who Overthink
→ Why Stepkids Don’t Consider us Family
→ Tips to Help You Strengthen Your Relationship
→ And much more!

Here’s the full list of what’s inside this month: Continue reading “Inside the July 2018 Issue”

Feel Like an Outsider, Stepmom? Inside the July 2018 Issue

Feeling Like an OutsiderOutsideritis: And the Woman With Stepkids By Wednesday Martin, PhD

Do you ever feel like you’re living on the periphery of your own stepfamily and peering in? You’re not alone. Here’s why you have a case of Outsideritis and what to do about it.

When Talia (not her real name) came to a support group for couples with stepkids in New York City recently, she was, in her own words “at the end of my rope.” A laundry list of dissatisfactions tumbled out in rapid-fire succession: Continue reading “Feel Like an Outsider, Stepmom? Inside the July 2018 Issue”

Are Stepmoms Family? Inside the July 2018 Issue

Dads Wife“Dad’s Wife” The Real Reasons Stepkids Don’t Consider Us Family By Brenda Snyder, LCSW

Parents are parents. Grandparents are grandparents. So decreed my stepson, during the height of his wedding planning (circa 2009). A seemingly innocuous statement, I knew that he was ensuring that I would be recognized only as his “dad’s wife” and that my mother would not be given a corsage. I was 13 years into this stepfamily and, thus, had a pretty thick skin by that time.

Still, what is it about this stepkid relationship that makes it impossible for them to recognize us stepmoms as part of their families? In my experience, there are at least five reasons they fail to bring us into the fold. Continue reading “Are Stepmoms Family? Inside the July 2018 Issue”

Your Mother-in-Law and His Ex: Inside the April 2018 Issue

Your Mother in LawYour Mother-in-Law and His Ex
Are They Too Close for Comfort?
BY CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT

Does your mother-in-law stay in touch with the ex? This, despite the problems and issues she’s caused for you and your partner? If so, you may feel betrayed by your mother-in-law or find her talk of “the good old days” off-putting. Not to mention their friendship, which is yet another reminder that the ex is lurking in the background. Continue reading “Your Mother-in-Law and His Ex: Inside the April 2018 Issue”

Feel Like an Outsider? Inside the December 2017 Issue

Outsider SyndromeThere’s No Place Like Home: Advice for Stepmoms Who Experience Outsider Syndrome By Mary T. Kelly, MA

It doesn’t matter how old you are: “There’s no place like home! There’s no place like home! There’s no place like home!” For most of us, these pleading words are as familiar as the sun rising in the East.

In “The Wizard of Oz,” Dorothy was lost and had to find her way back home. This was no easy endeavor. She went through trial after trial, faced perilous odds, came up against deception and, ultimately, found redemption. Oh, the roads she had to travel first to get there! Continue reading “Feel Like an Outsider? Inside the December 2017 Issue”

Stepmom’s Guide to Mother’s Day: Inside the May 2017 Issue

Stepmom's Guide to Mother's DaySecond Sunday of May: A Stepmom’s Guide to Mother’s Day by Brenda Snyder, LCSW

My mom likes to spend Mother’s Day with my sister and me. We love spending it with her, too, because she gives us presents. She started this even before we became mothers ourselves. Her explanation: “If not for you guys, I wouldn’t be a mom.”

My first few Mother’s Days as a stepmother were pretty torturous. Continue reading “Stepmom’s Guide to Mother’s Day: Inside the May 2017 Issue”

Inside the April 2017 Issue

Stepmom Magazine April 2017

The April 2017 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

This month we’re talking about:

→ How to connect with your stepkids by speaking their “Love Language”
→ Tips for handling stepfamily events (like birthdays, graduations & weddings)
→ What you can do to overcome resentment and be happier!
→ Creative ways to get the kids excited about your wedding plans
→ How to navigate your stepchild’s loyalty binds
→ Creating new traditions for today’s stepfamilies
→ And more! Continue reading “Inside the April 2017 Issue”

Stepfamily Special Events: Inside the April 2017 Issue

Stepfamily Special EventsSpecial Event Survival Guide for Stepmoms: Advice for Managing Life’s Milestones With Dignity and Class By Brenda Snyder, LCSW

Before I became a stepmom, Spring was my favorite season. Tulips. Freshly-tilled earth awaiting farmers’ attention. Robins. Thunderstorms rolling in. The passing of cold Winter months and the anticipation of warm Summer days beckoned. And I willingly answered! Continue reading “Stepfamily Special Events: Inside the April 2017 Issue”

Stepfamily Loyalty Binds: Inside the April 2017 Issue

Stepfamily Loyalty BindsThe Ties That Bind: How to Navigate Loyalty Conflicts in Stepfamilies By Heather Hetchler, MA

A few weeks ago, I received a frantic call from a stepmom. We met the next day for coffee.

Through shouts of anger and a flood of tears, she shared her hurting heart. It was visible that Debbie was in deep pain. She’s been Sarah’s stepmom for the past 10 years and has physically and emotionally taken on the role of “Mom,” as Sarah’s biological mother floats in and out of her life. Continue reading “Stepfamily Loyalty Binds: Inside the April 2017 Issue”

Inside the March 2017 Issue

StepMom Magazine March 2017 Issue

The March 2017 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

This month we’re talking about:

→ His “crazy ex” and why she acts that way
→ The 6 mistakes almost every stepmom makes
→ How to recognize the signs of Parental Alienation
→ Why all stepcouples need a grownup vacation (and how to get one)
→ What to do if not being his “first” really bugs you
→ Why stepdads really do have it easier
→ And more! Continue reading “Inside the March 2017 Issue”