The January 2015 issue of StepMom Magazine is here!
Being a stepmom is a lot like making New Year’s resolutions. You begin with high hopes and great intentions. You set lofty goals. You formulate a plan and you try your hardest to stick to it. Then? Life happens. The stepkids act up. The ex drags your partner back to court. You find yourself simultaneously juggling child support payments, visitation schedules and different parenting philosophies.
Over time? Your enthusiasm wanes. Some days? You feel like you’re right back where you started—at square one. Yet, with new resolve, you start over. (Again.)
A Message from Brenda:
I receive letters from readers all year long but, the messages I receive this time of year are always a little extra special to me. I think it’s because I understand how challenging the holiday season can be for stepmoms.
Earlier this month I received a letter from a stepmom who shared her thoughts with me. She said: “Since I moved in with my partner and his kids I’ve felt unhinged. But reading the magazine makes me feel like someone has crawled inside my head. It is the best gift I could have given myself this year.”
‘Tis the season for holiday drama…
…Fa-la-la-la-la-la-la-la! When you’re a stepmom, holidays can be tough, but we can help!
Let us show you how to navigate even the most complicated stepfamily situations – all year long! The best part? When you subscribe today you’ll SAVE $20!
“Be the mother ship. Not the mother.” This is sage stepmom advice I received from my friend Ruth over a cider-slash-venting session years ago. She had been a stepmom before it was even cool. I didn’t know her then. She was 19, he was 30 and suddenly she had two small girls for whom to take care. She hung in there for 18 years of marriage and watched herself and those kids grow up. I know we all think there isn’t enough information out there on being a stepmom these days, but 30 years ago there literally was nothing. She had to learn 100 percent through trial and error. Continue reading “Stepmoms: Be the Mother Ship (Not the Mother!)”
This article by Joel Schwartzberg originally appeared in the Dec. 2009 issue of StepMom Magazine.
When Hollywood superstar Sandra Bullock married TV celebrity Jesse James, she took on the most challenging part of her life – not just his wife, but stepmother to his five-year-old daughter Sunny. Fresh from playing a reluctant romantic partner in The Proposal, Bullock jumped into her reality role with complete commitment, slowing her career, facing down a trouble-prone ex-wife, comforting a stressed-out husband, connecting with James’ two other children, and by her own admission, putting personal motherhood plans on hold for Sunny’s benefit. Continue reading “6 Things Remarried Dads Owe Their Stepmom Wives”
Did you know that the wrong therapist can actually make your situation worse? It’s true! Watch this video for tips on how to find a qualified therapist to help you work through the most common stepfamily challenges.