Stepmoms, Cell Phones & The Urge to Snoop: How to Practice and Build Trust With Your Partner By Mary T. Kelly, MA
Do you trust your partner? We’re hard-wired to trust, according to a report which appeared in the August 2015 edition of “The Journal of Neuroscience.” It’s not surprising. Intimate relationships cannot exist without trust. That’s because intimacy and trust go hand in hand. I’ll even take it a step further. If you don’t have trust, you don’t have a marriage or a true partnership.
But it’s important to make the distinction between trust itself and blind trust. Many of you may have found out the hard way that you’d been fools for love. This is where blind trust leads us astray. If we stick to the Merriam-Webster definition, we come away understanding that trust is “the belief that someone is reliable, good and honest.”
The focus, in the act of trust, is believing the intention of another. This is critical to highlight as, when it comes to conflict with one’s partner, intention often gets lost in the details. Let’s try a little something. Let me ask you a few questions:
⊲ Do you trust your partner, as it relates to his parenting?
⊲ Do you trust your partner, as it relates to his relationship with his ex?
⊲ Do you trust your partner, as it relates to your own relationship with him?