A Stepmom’s Fatal Attraction: Yes, You Can Stop Obsessing Over His Ex by Mary T. Kelly, MA
YOU CAN’T HELP IT. YOU THINK ABOUT HIS EX-WIFE ALL THE TIME. If this sounds like you, your internal dialogue likely includes thoughts that revolve around:
⊲ How crazy she is
⊲ How mean she is to you
⊲ How she ruins your lives
⊲ How she hounds your partner
⊲ How she makes up lies about you
⊲ How she turns the kids against you
⊲ How you can’t get a shred of relief
Do any of these thoughts replay themselves over and over in your brain? Do you relate to the hamster on the treadmill that just goes around and around? Do you feel powerless to control your fatal attraction to the words, actions and inactions of his ex?
You’re in good company. Women universally suffer from relentless thoughts and worries. There are biological reasons for this. There’s even a name for it: rumination. Ruin-ation is more like it! …To read the rest of this article, log in to your account and download the October 2015 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.