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Inside the July 2016 Issue of StepMom Magazine

StepMom Magazine July 2016
The July 2016 Issue

The July 2016 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

Summer is in full swing so we’re turning up the heat, sparking some hot conversations and getting real.

In this month’s issue we explore:

→ Why stepkids take their anger out on YOU
→ Stepmom grief and how to cope with the sacrifices we make
→ What to do when your stepchild’s mom tries to upstage you
→ Tips to help you cope with summer schedule changes
→ The art of stepping back & taking charge of your life!

And much more!

Here’s what you’ll find inside: Continue reading “Inside the July 2016 Issue of StepMom Magazine”

Stepfamily Events: Inside the July 2016 Issue

Stepfamily Events
The July 2016 Issue

Step Aside, Stepmom: Sharing the Spotlight With Their Mom by Claudette Chenevert

During the cycle of life, we encounter many major milestones that transform our families. They force us to interact with people we may not be excited to stand alongside, including mom. Stepmoms sometimes dread the most significant milestone moments, in which the occasion is inevitably shared with their stepkids’ biological moms: graduations, weddings and babies.

I’ve participated in all three. With each one, I learned it’s not about me. It’s about my stepkids and making those days special for them. This can be challenging when you face an ex who views you as an intruder or outsider who oversteps the role of parent in her kids’ lives. Continue reading “Stepfamily Events: Inside the July 2016 Issue”

Stepmom Grief: Inside the July 2016 Issue

Stepmom Grief
The July 2016 Issue

Grieving Stepmoms: Recognizing and Reconciling What You’ve Given Up by Brenda Snyder, LCSW

Lots of stepmoms show up in my counseling office because their family doctor prescribed an antidepressant and recommended therapy. Admittedly showing signs of depression (i.e., irritability, sadness, changes in appetite, difficulty sleeping, fatigue), these women readily agree with their doctors that something is not right. What both doctor and stepmom fail to consider, however, is that the symptoms of depression are stunningly similar to signs of bereavement. Continue reading “Stepmom Grief: Inside the July 2016 Issue”

Stepmom Conflict by Proxy: Inside the July 2016 Issue

Stepmom Conflict by Proxy
The July 2016 Issue

Stepmom Conflict by Proxy: What Every Woman With Stepkids Needs to Know by Wednesday Martin, PhD

If you have stepchildren of any age in your life, you—I would wager—have arguing and even fighting (by which I mean arguments that go ballistic—with criticism, contempt and stonewalling ruling the interaction) in your life. Perhaps, at certain points, particularly the first five to seven years of your remarriage or repartnership with children, lots of arguments and fights: over-the-top, screeching, screaming, gut-wrenching, I’d-like-to-storm-out- right-now-and-never-come-back, here-we-go-again-and-I-just-can’t-take-it-anymore, I-think-I- want-a-divorce, get-out-and-don’t-come-back-you-insensitive-*%$@&! fights. Continue reading “Stepmom Conflict by Proxy: Inside the July 2016 Issue”

Summer Visitation: Inside the July 2016 Issue

Summer Visitation
The July 2016 Issue

Stepmoms, Stepkids and Summertime: How to Keep Your Cool When Things Heat Up by Mary T. Kelly, MA

Mark Twain once famously said, “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco.” If you’ve ever been to the Bay Area, you’ll know exactly what he meant. As a stepmom, you may also find a correlation.

It’s the heat of summer now, yet you may be nursing a cold, cold heart.

Many women whose partners have children feel this way during the summer months. Some of you have stepkids who will come stay for a month—or even the whole summer. Others are sticking with the regular yearlong schedule. That leaves you and your partner scrambling to figure out how to supervise the kids when they’re not in school. Continue reading “Summer Visitation: Inside the July 2016 Issue”

Inside the June 2016 Issue of StepMom Magazine

Stepmom Magazine June 2016
The June 2016 Issue

The June 2016 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

In honor of Father’s Day, this month’s Special Edition of StepMom Magazine is designed specifically “For the Men!” we love so much.

It’s packed with articles for you and your partner and tackles the topics that divorced, re-partnered and stepdads struggle with most.

It also offers insight for stepmoms who want to understand their partner better.

A great conversation- starter, this is the one issue you definitely want to read—together!

Here’s what you’ll find inside: Continue reading “Inside the June 2016 Issue of StepMom Magazine”

The Stepmom Step Back: Inside the June 2016 Issue

Stepmom Step Back
Inside the June 2016 Issue

Stepmoms Who Disengage: How to Step Back Without Stepping on Toes by Brenda Snyder, LCSW

So, here you find yourself: You—a bright and articulate woman—have suddenly realized that whatever it is you’ve been doing to make this stepmom gig work hasn’t worked at all. In response, you examined your loving heart and reassessed your intentions to be sure they were pure.

Still, you’re met with hostility or, somehow even worse, apathy. This then caused you to redouble your efforts, which left you exhausted and frustrated. The more you tried, the more you hated the results. So, you decided to find out what the experts had to say. You read some books, talked to experienced stepmoms and maybe even found a competent stepfamily therapist. Continue reading “The Stepmom Step Back: Inside the June 2016 Issue”

Tips for Remarried Men: Inside the June 2016 Issue

Remarried Men
Inside the June 2016 Issue

FOR THE MEN!
5 Tips for Remarried Men: Stepping Up When Your Marriage Is Falling Down
by Andy Hetchler

Remarriage with kids is complicated.

My wife and I were madly in love when we said, “I do,” and brought our six kids together. We still love each other, but somewhere early in the journey mad about you turned into mad at you.

A slow fade occurred, in the early years of our marriage, which led to a pollution of the head and heart—for both of us. We loved each other. That wasn’t the issue. We started to not like each other. Our view of one another shifted and we needed to get back to that center space where we trusted each other emotionally. Continue reading “Tips for Remarried Men: Inside the June 2016 Issue”

Peacemaking Divorced Dads: Inside the June 2016 Issue

Divorced Dads
Inside the June 2016 Issue

FOR THE MEN!
Peacemaking Divorced Dads: How Avoiding Conflict Can Start a War
by Mary T. Kelly, MA

 There are common phrases you, as a man, may use when you want to avoid conflict. Doing so, you often wind up kidding yourself and your partner by thinking that it isn’t because you’re avoiding conflict. It’s because you’re a peace-loving guy!

 A peacemaker. Yet—after working with thousands of men who are repartnered fathers—my experience shows that, when asked point blank how they feel about addressing real or potential disagreements, nearly 98 percent of men admit to being conflict avoidant. Continue reading “Peacemaking Divorced Dads: Inside the June 2016 Issue”

Support for Stepdads: Inside the June 2016 Issue

Suppor for Stepdads
Inside the June 2016 Issue

FOR THE MEN!
Dearest Wife: It’s Your Stepdad Husband—Can We Talk?
by Christina Roach, LMHC, NCC, DCC

 Dearest Wife,
I’m a little lost here, as to where I fit in. As the man of the house, I feel an obligation to contribute. But, regardless of what I do, I’m in the wrong.

 I can’t just stand by and let your kids walk all over you. Yet, when I say something about it, you tell me I’m being too hard on them and then jump to their defense. What do you think that tells your kids? All they hear is that they don’t have to listen to anything I say.
Continue reading “Support for Stepdads: Inside the June 2016 Issue”