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Inside the December 2016 Issue

StepMom Magazine December 2016

The December 2016 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

→ The Year’s Best Expert Stepmom Tips & Advice
→ Learn How to Help Your Partner Be a Better Dad
→ What You Need to Know About (Step)Family Traditions
→ Power Posing: Body Language Techniques for Stepmoms
→ When The Kids Aren’t Coming Home for the Holidays
→ Why You Can Stop Trying to Make Things “Fair” for The Kids
→ And much more!
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Stepfamily Traditions: Inside the December 2016 Issue

Stepfamily TraditionsBring on the Holidays, Stepmom! Ways to Thrive as Your Family Merges Its Traditions by Brenda Snyder, LCSW

Whether you welcome the cooling temperatures or dread them, the change of seasons signals the time period most fraught with emotion by many stepmoms—the holidays.

Stepmoms new to their families might be filled with expectation and excitement while stepmoms with painful holiday memories might meet the festivities with dread and despair. Wherever you find yourself on the spectrum, insight and planning ahead can give you the best chance of a time filled with celebration and good will. Continue reading “Stepfamily Traditions: Inside the December 2016 Issue”

Parenting Advice: Inside the December 2016 Issue

Parenting AdviceDad’s Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Days: Ways to Help Your Partner Parent Better by Mary T. Kelly, MA

“When I got out of bed this morning, I tripped on the skateboard and, by mistake, I dropped my sweater in the sink—while the water was running …. I think I’ll move to Australia.”

—excerpt from “Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day,” by Judith Viorst

The opening excerpt is from a wildly popular children’s book that kids can relate to because, in truth, kids have bad days of their own. And, though your partner may not admit this, he has definitely experienced a slew of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days, too—as a dad—and he doesn’t feel very good about it. Continue reading “Parenting Advice: Inside the December 2016 Issue”

Stepmom Advice: Inside the December 2016 Issue

Stepmom AdviceStepMom Magazine’s Round Up of the Year’s Best Expert Tips and Stepmom Advice

Oh, dear, what a year! From the fate of the U.S. presidency to the Chicago Cubs’ first World Series win in 108 years, every aspect of life seemed to hang in the balance. Yet, none of it kept our contributors from sharing sound advice that helped us stay the course.

This month we round up 2016’s best expert tips for stepmoms and their stepfamilies, followed by excerpts from this year’s prior issues of StepMom Magazine. In sifting through them, we realized how ready we are to leave all the other drama behind. How ‘bout you?

Yeah, it’s time. Read on, reboot and get ready for 2017! …To read the rest of this article, log in to your account and download the December 2016 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.

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Stepfamily Holiday Blues: Inside the December 2016 Issue

Stepfamily HolidayStepfamily Holiday Blues: Learning to Celebrate a Season for Two by Claudette Chenevert

IT’S CHRISTMAS MORNING. You wake up all excited but soon realize that this year is different. This Christmas will not be spent opening presents with your stepkids or even your own kids.

This Christmas it’s going to be just you and your spouse. A lump forms in your throat, as you think about it. You know it’s just another day, right? So what if you don’t have a houseful of squealing kids shouting “YES! I got my new phone!” or “Thanks for this gift. I really like it!”

Last year—for the first time, as we’re now parents of adult children—Bernard and I experienced Christmas without any of our kids. Continue reading “Stepfamily Holiday Blues: Inside the December 2016 Issue”

Inside the November 2016 Issue

StepMom Magazine November 2016

The November 2016 issue of StepMom Magazine is HERE!

→ 5 things to help you feel thankful (even when step-life is hard)
→ Advice for stepmoms of kids who’ve been parentified
→ Interview exclusive with stepmom and Gospel singer: Leah Shafer
→ Why taking the high road with his ex can make you happier
→ Becoming a stepmom: Would you do it all over again?
→ Tips to help you avoid holiday scheduling hassles
→ And much more! Continue reading “Inside the November 2016 Issue”

Stepmoms vs. Ex-Wives: Inside the November 2016 Issue

Stepmoms vs Ex-WivesStepmoms vs. Ex-Wives: How to Stop Bad Mouthing His Ex
by Mary T. Kelly, MA

Women are more misogynistic than men. There! I said it. And I meant it.

I came to this sad conclusion after decades of befriending and observing other women. I know that statement may sound sacrilegious and that’s certainly not my intention. Yet, the competition, vitriol and downright meanness among many women just can’t be denied. The judgments and criticisms women foist upon each other are relentless. Continue reading “Stepmoms vs. Ex-Wives: Inside the November 2016 Issue”

Parentified Stepchildren: Inside the November 2016 Issue

Parentified StepchildrenThe Parentified Child: When Stepkids Are Forced to Grow Up Too Fast
by Brenda Snyder, LCSW

When an intact family system reorganizes by death or divorce, every family member makes adjustments to the new structure. Unfortunately for the children, the adults are often so steeped in their own emotional pain that they are oblivious— through no real fault of their own—to the unhealthy accommodations their kids wind up making. While this is certainly not optimal for the adults, it can be devastating to the emotional health of their children.

It can be quite common, in one-parent families, for a child to hear that he or she is now the man or woman of the house. Continue reading “Parentified Stepchildren: Inside the November 2016 Issue”

Stepmom Leah Shafer: Inside the November 2016 Issue

Stepmom Leah ShaferStepmom Leah Shafer Is in the House: Can We Get an “Amen!” for This Amazing Woman? Interview by Brenda Ockun, StepMom Magazine Founder & Publisher

Leah Shafer is one amazing stepmom—and mom. She travels internationally as a gospel recording artist. She works with the Denver Broncos, singing the U.S. national anthem at the team’s playoff and AFC Championship games. Continue reading “Stepmom Leah Shafer: Inside the November 2016 Issue”

Stepfamily Holidays: Inside the November 2016 Issue

Stepfamily HolidaysWhose Holiday Is It, Anyway? Make Your Stepfamily Holidays Merry and Bright by Claudette Chenevert and Christine G. Adamo

Have your plans ever been foiled by an ex wanting to take a spur-of-the-moment holiday trip sans kids? A wacky plan to which your partner said, “Yeah, we’ll take ’em!”— thus extinguishing your sugar plum visions of dinner and dancing with the sweetie on New Year’s Eve? (We have.)

Maybe your at-home stepfamily Christmas celebration was derailed by a text Continue reading “Stepfamily Holidays: Inside the November 2016 Issue”