Inside the monthly magazine...
The September 2015 issue of StepMom Magazine is here!
Becoming a stepmom is like taking a crash course in subjects women never dream of studying: “How to Deal With an Angry Ex” and “Child Support 101” aren’t offered, as requirements or electives, in high school or university course catalogues. And yet? Millions of women find themselves tested every single day.
It’s like a taking a pop quiz you never studied for. Your patience is tested. Your ability to withstand character attacks is tested. Your stamina, your self-confidence, your relationship with your partner … they’re all repeatedly tested, too.
The good news is? You can ace these tests! We’re here to guide you through it. Every step of the way! Here’s what you’ll find inside when you subscribe: Continue reading
Stepparenting Together? How Stepmoms’ and Stepdads’ Experiences Differ by Trisha Ladogna
Have you ever wondered if stepdads have it easier?
Becoming a stepmother after spending time as a single parent means parenting like you have never experienced it before. You have the unique experience of beginning your stepparenting journey at the very same time, in the very same place, as your partner.
While this can open up some fantastic opportunities for shared understanding, insight and support (in your couple relationship), it also brings with it a unique set of challenges found only when there are two stepparents residing in the same home. Continue reading
Tired of Being a Stepmom? Science Says Taking the High Road Isn’t Easy by Christina Roach, LMHC, NCC, DCC
We all know being a stepmom can be a tiresome business— with some days feeling more draining than others. Countless scenarios are primed to put us in positions where we can choose to either take the high road or succumb to exposing our uncensored thoughts.
Whether it’s par for the course of the role we’re in or not, many stepmoms are faced with predicaments in which they feel a need to wield restraint over their impulses. Maybe you’ve crafted Pollyanna-type responses to yourself about false allegations made by the ex, your stepchildren’s selective hearing or (what you perceive to be) your partner’s misguided parenting style. Continue reading
Getting Your Partner to Listen – Stepmom Strategies: Stop Harping and Be Heard by Mary T. Kelly, MA
⊲ “We need to talk.”
⊲ “You need to tell your kid to clean his room.”
⊲ “I need you to set your ex straight on our boundaries.”
⊲ “You need to start disciplining your kids or I’ll do it for you.”
Do you recognize yourself in any of those statements? In truth, that list could go on and on. I’ll bet you’ve started multiple conversations with your partner by saying, “You need to …,” I want you to …,” or some variation of that. Continue reading
All Grown Up: When Life Hands You Adult Stepkids
by Brenda Snyder, LCSW
It is a well-known fact that people are living longer and that the aging and elderly population is a growing one. This affects many aspects of society, including the growing number of stepfamilies that form later in life and are, thus, comprised of older adults with adult stepchildren.
Stepfamily literature and research tends to focus on families with young or school-age children, where everyday parenting tasks are the norm. Even informal conversations about impending marriages dismiss the unique challenges of taking on adult stepchildren, with everyone expressing gratitude that the “problems” wrought by younger stepchildren have been avoided. Continue reading
An Interview with Aviva Drescher: The Reality TV Personality Talks with StepMom Magazine’s Brenda Ockun about Fame, Family and Finding Happiness
Aviva Drescher lives a life that’s rich in experiences. She’s a mother, a stepmom, a philanthropist, an author and a former cast member of Bravo’s reality TV series, “The Real Housewives of New York City” (Seasons 5 and 6).
This month, Aviva shares her thoughts about stepfamily life, living in the limelight and overcoming obstacles during an interview with Brenda Ockun, the founder and publisher of StepMom Magazine.
Find out what you have in common with this celebrity stepmom in our telling interview—which begins on Page 14.
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Confessions of a Full-Time Stepmom: 4 Truths About This 24/7 Gig by Heather Hetchler, MA
I glanced at the clock. The reflected time stopped me cold. My heart began to race. My stomach started turning. My breath grew shallow. They were all automatic responses to what was estimated to occur in less than three hours: my step- daughters’ return from two weeks at their grandparents’ home.
Feeling terrible about my physical reaction, I texted two friends and asked them to pray for me.
As a full-time stepmom of two and a co-parenting mom of four, there are only two weeks each year in which my stepdaughters are not with us. I look forward to these two weeks. Continue reading
Sitting in the Center: An Ours Child’s Perspective on Stepfamily Life by Trisha Ladogna
Our decision to have an ours baby was not made lightly. I was 36, a childless stepmother for more than five years and had suffered a miscarriage prior to having my first biological child.
Like many first-time mothers, I did an amazing amount of preparation and reading about what was happening with my body and my baby. Like many stepmothers, I did just as much reading and preparation around the impact this little bundle of joy would have on our stepfamily—particularly my stepson.
And, like both stepmothers and mothers, I worried. Continue reading