DEAR PRINCE CHARMING: 6 THINGS YOUR STEPMOM WIFE NEEDS YOU TO DO BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW
Women who fall in love with men who have children are a special breed. We are highly capable, successful, loving women who are good problem solvers and organizers. We are independent partners who make great choices and have skills around identifying our needs and getting them met. We are difficult to intimidate and never saw a challenge we couldn’t conquer.
Imagine our surprise, then, when our stepmom roles bring us to our knees.
We think we know what we’re getting into but soon— pretty ridiculously soon, actually—we start to feel feelings we don’t recognize. We say things which should not be said. And we do things which make it difficult for us to recognize ourselves. We are fully aware that, at least half the time, we act as if we’ve purchased seats on the Crazy Train.
You know how hard being around me can be? Well, imagine being me. You, wonderful you, are a man. As such, you feel best when I’m OK. You want to solve the problem. You want to do something and not just talk everything to death. Unfortunately, I have to work through a lot of this on my own.