A Veteran Stepmom Speaks: What I Wish I Knew Back Then BY BRENDA SNYDER, LCSW
It’s too bad you didn’t know me 20-some years ago. In possession of a newly-minted Master’s degree, a new job and a new boyfriend (with a ready-made family), I held the reins of my life in a loose, confident grip. I was omniscient and invincible.
I dismissed experienced advice personally and, sometimes, professionally. My work supervisors’ knowledge, I thought, was dated. I wanted no part of their obsolete, burnt-out, driven tips. Older stepmoms were equally irrelevant for a slew of reasons.
Them I dismissed because they couldn’t know our love, our unique situation and how the stars were now perfectly aligned, because I had arrived on the scene to save my new family from their crazy mother and the pain of the divorce she caused.