Stepmoms and Ex-Wives: 5 Relationship Paradigms: Which Do You Choose? by Brenda Snyder, LCSW
Few relationships a stepmom navigates are as tricky as the one she has with her partner’s ex. There are many obvious reasons for this complexity. (Perhaps, most notably, you’ve both seen the same man naked.) You may wonder what constitutes normal when it comes to your relationship with your stepchildren’s mother, as this particular pairing usually feels anything but.
Normal (my least favorite word) is impossible to define. There are simply too many variables, in these complicated family situations, though I have noticed that a few consistent patterns emerge in stepmom/ex relationships and it can be helpful to assess yours with these paradigms in mind.
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