What Stepmoms Wish They Knew
Stepmom Survey
With stepmom goggles on, this stepfamily gig can look a little hazy or feel a bit like stumbling around in the dark. Since hindsight vision is 20/20, we asked a few seasoned stepmoms what they wish they’d known as novices. On Facebook and Instagram, we asked what they wish they’d done differently. Their feedback ranges from “better blending” to “what might’ve been.” Glean some insight of your own via their responses. …To read the rest of this article, log in and download the September 2018 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.
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Inside the August 2018 Issue
The August 2018 issue is HERE!
This month we’re talking about:
* Expecting Stepmoms
* Protecting Your Privacy
* Surviving the Teen Years
* Co-Parenting With the Ex
* Stepmom Support Groups
* Dealing with Adult Stepchildren
* Social Media and Your Stepkids’ Mom
* Awkward Stepmom Moments
→ And much more!
Here’s the full list of what’s inside this month: Continue reading “Inside the August 2018 Issue”
Stepmom Support Groups: Inside the August 2018 Issue
Stepmom Support Groups
Take What You Like and Leave the Rest
BY ANNA DE ACOSTA
Do you long for connection with other like-minded stepmoms who get where you’re coming from? Human nature drives us to want to connect with others on a deeper level to feel understood. Yet, in many cases, those who have walked the walk and been stepmoms themselves are the only ones who truly understand our day-to-day challenges. Continue reading “Stepmom Support Groups: Inside the August 2018 Issue”
Stepmom Privacy: Inside the August 2018 Issue
Privacy Policy
Do Your Stepkids Tell Mom Everything?
BY MARY T. KELLY, MA
“All violations of essential privacy are brutalizing.” –Katherine Fullerton Gerould
Like me, you’ve probably never heard of Katharine Fullerton Gerould. She was a well-respected writer who was born in the late 1800s. I wonder what she would think of stepfamilies and the very real and consistent problem of privacy.
Let’s not mince any words here. Continue reading “Stepmom Privacy: Inside the August 2018 Issue”
Inside the July 2018 Issue
The July 2018 issue is HERE!
This month we’re talking about:
→ Codependency
→ Interfering In-laws
→ Prenup Agreements
→ Feeling Like an Outsider
→ Being Childless by Choice
→ Advice for Stepmoms Who Overthink
→ Why Stepkids Don’t Consider us Family
→ Tips to Help You Strengthen Your Relationship
→ And much more!
Here’s the full list of what’s inside this month: Continue reading “Inside the July 2018 Issue”
Feel Like an Outsider, Stepmom? Inside the July 2018 Issue
Outsideritis: And the Woman With Stepkids By Wednesday Martin, PhD
Do you ever feel like you’re living on the periphery of your own stepfamily and peering in? You’re not alone. Here’s why you have a case of Outsideritis and what to do about it.
When Talia (not her real name) came to a support group for couples with stepkids in New York City recently, she was, in her own words “at the end of my rope.” A laundry list of dissatisfactions tumbled out in rapid-fire succession: Continue reading “Feel Like an Outsider, Stepmom? Inside the July 2018 Issue”
Childfree by Choice: Inside the July 2018 Issue
Childfree by Choice: Research Proves You Should Ignore Your Critics By Christine G. Adamo
I was recently privy to a convo between two women with similar yet different childfree experiences. Both were childless-by-choice, never wanting kids of their own. While Claire had longed to foster or adopt, both of her ex-husbands balked at that option. They were bent on biological—or nothing at all—hence their ex-ness.
“It seems egotistical to me,” Claire said. “What’s so special about having kids of your own? I don’t get it and I can have kids. I come from a long line of fertile women.” Continue reading “Childfree by Choice: Inside the July 2018 Issue”
The Codependent Stepmom: Inside the July 2018 Issue
The Codependent Stepmom: Do You Give to Others At Your Own Expense? By Mary T. Kelly, MA
You joined a ready-made family and were on a mission. You were determined to make a difference, whether fueled by good intentions, a desire to compete with his ex or a combination of both. Those kids needed some guidance and discipline, which they weren’t receiving from their own parents, and you were more than happy to pitch in.
Even if you had hesitations about jumping into a role you didn’t know much about, your partner expected you to be involved—and so did everyone else. You were a good and loving person and this was the right thing to do. Continue reading “The Codependent Stepmom: Inside the July 2018 Issue”
Are Stepmoms Family? Inside the July 2018 Issue
“Dad’s Wife” The Real Reasons Stepkids Don’t Consider Us Family By Brenda Snyder, LCSW
Parents are parents. Grandparents are grandparents. So decreed my stepson, during the height of his wedding planning (circa 2009). A seemingly innocuous statement, I knew that he was ensuring that I would be recognized only as his “dad’s wife” and that my mother would not be given a corsage. I was 13 years into this stepfamily and, thus, had a pretty thick skin by that time.
Still, what is it about this stepkid relationship that makes it impossible for them to recognize us stepmoms as part of their families? In my experience, there are at least five reasons they fail to bring us into the fold. Continue reading “Are Stepmoms Family? Inside the July 2018 Issue”
Inside the June 2018 Issue
The June 2018 issue is HERE!
This month’s Father’s Day Special Edition is designed specifically for couples to read—together!
The articles this month will help you and your partner team up to tackle a variety of topics divorced dads, re-partnered dads and stepdads struggle with most often. Stepmoms worldwide tell us they look forward to this annual edition because it’s a great conversation starter!
Here’s the full list of what’s inside this month: Continue reading “Inside the June 2018 Issue”