StepMom Magazine

National Stepfamily Day is September 16

National Stepfamily DayChristy Borgeld, a remarried mom and stepmom, initiated National Stepfamily Day in 1997. Her goal was to create a holiday that would bring the need for stepfamily support and awareness to the nation’s forefront while, at the same time, provide today’s modern family with an opportunity to recognize and celebrate their relationships. Continue reading “National Stepfamily Day is September 16”

A Mixed Blessing for Stepfamilies? There’s S’more to Learn from Honey Maid’s New “This is Wholesome” Ad Campaign

Stepfamily Information and Support
Brenda Ockun
Publisher of StepMom Magazine

In 1973, a postage stamp cost 8 cents, “The Brady Bunch” was in its fourth year of production and I was in kindergarten.

My teacher, Ms. Rahn, was a tall, thin woman with overly teased, brassy blond hair. We kids walked to school—where we read “Dick and Jane” books, ate cookies and drank whole milk before taking 20-minute naps. We sat cross-legged, in circles, on the floor while learning the virtues of sharing and waiting your turn. And nearly everyone’s parents were still married, as far as we knew. Continue reading “A Mixed Blessing for Stepfamilies? There’s S’more to Learn from Honey Maid’s New “This is Wholesome” Ad Campaign”

How To Find A Good Stepfamily Therapist

Did you know that the wrong therapist can actually make your situation worse? It’s true! Watch this video for tips on how to find a qualified therapist to help you work through the most common stepfamily challenges.

Tell us what you think about this video. Have you ever worked with a therapist? Do you think it might help your stepfamily situation? Continue reading “How To Find A Good Stepfamily Therapist”

5 Big Fat Lies About Being A Stepmom

The rules for stepmoms are often unclear and contradictory. Here are 5 things we tell stepmothers (and why you shouldn’t believe any of them!)

Stepmoms: Tell us what you think about these big fat lies! Do you have any to add to the list? Are there any stepmom misconceptions or stereotypes that really irritate you? Continue reading “5 Big Fat Lies About Being A Stepmom”

How To Keep The Ex Out Of Your Relationship

Do you spend too much time thinking about your partner’s ex-wife? Watch this video and learn how to focus LESS on her and MORE on your relationship.

Stepmoms: Leave a comment below and tell us what you think! Do you talk so much about the ex it almost feels like she lives with you? Are you ready to set boundaries and try the strategy explained in this video? Continue reading “How To Keep The Ex Out Of Your Relationship”

How NOT to Become a Stepfamily Statistic

Stepfamily break-up rates are significantly higher than first marriage divorce rates. Learn the three things all stepcouples can do to stack the odds in their favor.

Stepmoms: Leave a comment below and tell us: What do you and your partner do to strengthen your relationship and overcome the challenges inherent to stepfamily life? Continue reading “How NOT to Become a Stepfamily Statistic”

The 5 Dumbest Things People Say to Stepmoms

Stepfamily life can be complicated. Well-intentioned “advice” often comes from family & friends who just don’t understand why being a stepmom isn’t as easy as it looks!

Let’s hear from you, stepmoms. What’s the funniest, craziest, or dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you? Leave a comment below and, if you liked this video, don’t keep it a secret, share it!

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The Secrets Stepmoms Keep

For many women, being a stepmother is like having a dirty, little secret. Why don’t people talk about it? Brenda Ockun of StepMom Magazine explains why in this video:

Mother’s Day Advice for Stepmoms

Mother's Day Advice for Stepmoms

For many stepmoms, Mother’s Day is one of the hardest days of the year. Without much acknowledgement or  recognition for the contributions you provide all year long, the holiday can leave you feeling sad and unappreciated.

Internally, most stepmoms understand that we’re not our stepkids’ biological parent and yet we still want to be recognized—like biological parents are.

Don’t pretend your feelings aren’t there or that you don’t care but remember one of the surest ways to make any occasion happier is by spending time and energy doing something special for yourself.

If the mother of all holidays is hard for you, try to keep things in perspective. Being recognized is nice. But if you’re not? Here’s a little Mother’s Day advice to help you cope:

* Remember that what you feel in your heart and how you conduct yourself as a woman who plays an important role in the life of a child, is far more important than what society (or Hallmark) may, or may not, recognize. What you do matters.

* To childless or child-free stepmoms: Do not let your self-worth or your identity be defined by, or dependent upon, your maternal status. This weekend and always, you are enough.

* If you’re feeling alone or lonely: Use the day to reach out and recognize a woman in your life who has made a difference. Mother-figures, mentors and role models are blessings in any woman’s life. If you have one, tell her. We promise that doing so will make you feel better.

* Remember that even if no one else tells you or acknowledges you this weekend, you are an incredible woman. To accept a job that offers little security, few accolades and no promise of unconditional love – while also managing the inherent complexities of stepfamily life – proves that you are strong, brave and AMAZING. Revel in the quiet knowledge that you do the right thing, because it’s the right thing to do.

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