Infertility – The Secret Pain Many Stepmoms Suffer by Christina Roach, LMHC, NCC, DCC
Being a stepmom has its share of ups and downs—as each of us know all too well. The experience can become devastating, though, when faced with infertility concerns.
Regardless of the degree to which children are desired, the inability to conceive dismantles the image of mother, father and child walking hand-in-hand. It has the crushing strength of a wrecking ball that rips through a building as it’s demolished, crumbling it relentlessly to the ground.
What’s left can feel like a barren wasteland. Empty. Dark. Hopeless. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that approximately 9 percent of American women between the ages of 15 to 44 experience infertility. The Mayo Clinic reports an even higher estimate, indicating 10 to 15 percent of couples in the U.S., are infertile.
The pain that accompanies this medical condition is not exclusive to it. For women who do get pregnant, repeat miscarriages can leave them feeling like victims of a cruel joke. What once had you filled with enthusiasm now has you holding your breath—the words: “You’re pregnant.”
Teetering between bridled excitement and fear, you enter into a purgatory state of wait-and-see. Both scenarios leave you with inner turmoil and can alter your perception of the world around you. …To read the rest of this article about stepmoms and infertility, log in to your account and download the January 2016 issue. Don’t have an account? Click here to subscribe.