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Comment on Children’s Bill of Rights by Step monster ;0)

Step monster ;0) — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 12:15:40 +0000

One busy mom
Unfortunately, all we can do is hope that our stepchildren grow and use both households as a comparison and apply it towards there lives. They get to decide how they want to parent. Our family therapist once told us, as difficult as it may be, my step children will have an advantage when they are older. They’ll know how to deal with different personalities. Particularly the difficult ones. As much as I’ve doubted it along the way I’m starting to see my step children confide in me more and more. There mother is an unreasonable person who tries to project her warped viewpoints on others. Ultimately she is pushing my step children further into my arms.
It’s all about patience throughout this journey,believing in yourself and hoping some good can prevail from the evil.
My ex husband is the Godfather of my 20 month old. He and my current husband get along very well. My stepchildren call him “uncle Fred”. Weird for some, but it works for us. My step kids can see that there can be civility among ex’s.
To me that means everything!

Comment on Children’s Bill of Rights by OneBusyMama

OneBusyMama — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 16:18:33 +0000

This is all good. However, how do we deal with one side that breaks all the rules? Take the high road (again and again) with no consequences or accountability for the other side? What about kids too young to see that damaging side for what it is? And what about the bio mom who destroys, loses, or puts down anything stepmom gives the child.. and equally steals and destroys things from her own stepchildren out of spite? How do we deal with the ramifications of these toxic, negative people who don’t play by the rules (particularly the good ones you put forth here)?

Comment on Children’s Bill of Rights by The Stepmom Coach

The Stepmom Coach — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 15:56:45 +0000

Beautifully said. I would add “The right to belong to more than one home and feel it’s OK to leave things at either/both places for that child does have more than one home.”
When children feel loved,. safe and secure, then we are truly living in a world were we value families.

Claudette Chenevert
The Stepmom Coach

Comment on Holiday Tips for Stepcouples by smile kenya

smile kenya — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 06:39:05 +0000

mistakes are made…That’s a fact!(on holidays). But, all that matters is what one learns from the past mistakes. The holiday tips you’ve listed for us aren’t to be taken for granted. They ought to be taken seriously by all couples who wish to spend this holiday in a most brilliant way. It prepares them for an awesome holiday.
Thanks for sharing this with us.

Comment on Sample Articles by Wednesday Martin» Blog Archive » What do Divorced and Repartnered Dads Really Want for Father’s Day?

Mon, 13 Jun 2011 18:16:09 +0000

[...] want? If you’re not a subscriber to StepMom Magazine, here is a chance to read a couple of sample articles from the most recent issue. In one, I discuss the dilemmas of divorced dads on Father’s Day–and the gift your [...]

Comment on March Madness by Jennis

Jennis — Fri, 27 May 2011 06:13:48 +0000

And I thought I was the senbisle one. Thanks for setting me straight.

Comment on Our need to be liked by woman of god

woman of god — Mon, 16 May 2011 16:59:01 +0000

This is an eye-opener and confirmation of what I have been feeling. Sometimes I feel like I am beating a dead dog in trying to get my stepchildren to respect me, like me, and appreciate the “motherly” things I do for them daily (they live with me). I realize their loyalty is to their mother no matter how she disappoints them or her lack of support. So I am letting go of trying to make them love me or even like me. I will do what is right despite how they treat me. I will walk in confidence and not fear concerning them.

Comment on Putting Your Relationship First by Giselle Minoli

Giselle Minoli — Tue, 26 Apr 2011 03:13:19 +0000

I love the Stepcouple Pledge. I’ve always been a believer in the power of ritual, of saying OUT LOUD, so that someone else can hear it, what your intent is: with your relationships, your business goals, your dreams, aspirations, yours hopes and desires for the future. When my husband and I got married the ritual of having my friends – the people who had seen me develop and grow and become who I am in New York over 30 years – witness our marriage and hear our vows was tremendously important to me. Now, when I am less than graceful about things I find hurtful, I remember promising to be graceful in front of them. When I cannot find my sense of humor anywhere, I remember promising to have one. I remember the time my friends took out of their lives to witness our marriage ceremony and it adds to my sense of honoring the support they gave us. The Stepcouple Pledge reads like that kind of commitment to me, but from the point of view of the biological parent. It’s powerful stuff.

Comment on PDA is Healthy by Ashrrs

Ashrrs — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 16:20:54 +0000

Same for me as for Ashly- Their mom never touched my husband, so my husband craved affection. But, we aren’t as affectionate as we used to be. I’d like to up that a bit. I do feel sad sometimes when we’re not as touchy as we used to be. I think I’ll bring this up to him, and 20 bucks says he’ll say the exact same thing.

Comment on Our need to be liked by Ashrrs

Ashrrs — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:44:04 +0000

I need to be reminded of this regularly. Thanks. Now, please publish resiliency work-out guides…